I know that I have talked about social media a number of different times already. With the way our society & culture is going social media happens to be a huge part of what we are consistently on or using to communicate with others. Social media can be such a great tool but it can also be such a hindrance! Social media can be this deep dark black hole, with so many unknowns. It’s the place where you can feel most supported, an outlet where you can be creative, & a space to meet new friends. It’s also a place where often you go & scroll through the many different “picture perfect” moments, homes, & lives and you begin to feel bad for yourself. You begin to take a look at your life, the way your home looks, how you are perceived, really you name it.
First, I want to say this, social media does not define you, it doesn’t define your success, it doesn’t define who you are as a person & most importantly it only incorporates a small portion of your life as a whole. Know that your identity does not have to be wrapped up in your social media accounts, or in the many different accounts that you follow. It’s easy to get on social media & become quickly jealous of someone else’s numbers, their life, or the things they have. Even the accounts with hundreds of thousands of followers do this – no one is immune to it.
I do not believe that the majority of people get onto social media or post on social media to make others jealous, or envious of their life. Let’s be honest, we all post the best or “highlight reel” of our lives to our social media platforms. What I am here to say is that you have to take all of that with a grain of salt.
Personally, I know that I post snippets of my life. And I do not do it to make others jealous or envious of my life or home. I enjoy the creative outlet & space I get to share & it brings me great joy to share it with all of you. However, I do want you to know that my life is not perfect, I struggle in many different ways on a daily basis & I also struggle when it comes to scrolling through social media with jealousy. I always take a step back and take a look at my life & remind myself of all the things that I do have which often includes my struggles. I recognize that no one is perfect despite what it may look like.
I have said this many of times but I truly believe it. Supporting one another in our best & worst is what makes it community. When I am feeling that jealousy I have some amazing friends & people that speak into my life & remind me of my intentions & goals. It’s so very important to not ignore social media as a whole because the reality of the world that we live in is focused on social media – whether we like it or not. Now I am not saying that we need to be consumed by social media either. I think there is a fine line here. It’s about allowing ourselves to create boundaries within the confines of social media in order to preserve our own sanity & sanctuaries. It’s simply about muting that account that you consistently go to & find yourself getting jealous over their life or the things they do or have. It’s okay to set boundaries for yourself.
With that I want to encourage everyone to take some time to figure out what this may look like for you. I often try and take a break from social media as a whole for a period of time whether that be a full day, weekend, a month or a couple of hours here and there. I think it’s important to take a step back and just recognize there is still life outside of social media. It’s important to still be present where you are.
In the end we all have to set our own boundaries and everyone is different in their views and needs. Allow yourself to be unique & to do yourself the way you want to do yourself & not let others define who you think you should be. There is beauty in simplicity & beauty in your uniqueness my friends.
I just want to leave you with some questions to ponder.
What are some boundaries that you have set for yourself when it comes to social media? What ways have you seen social media bring out your insecurities? Have you been able to take a step back to evaluate? When was the last time you took a break from social media?